My boss yelled at me today. And it was something not of my doing. I had a choice to either fight back or let him vent it all out on me and not letting it bother me. Well, easier said than done. However, I am glad that I am not the person who keeps anger and negativity in me that much or for a long period of time. Being human it is only natural that we turn our modes into a defensive one and having to deal with negative words or being yell at, insulted or humiliated; these are the basic ingredients that will snap you into the said mode and the reaction to that would be anger. If I were to have superpowers and a could channel negative energies to anything I touch, then a nice beautiful flower would probably wither and die in an instant. And turn into dust! That was how I felt for the first 15 minutes.
I believe that if one is angry, it is crucial to learn to let go as soon as possible. The longer you keep that anger or negativity inside, the worse it will feel. Let's take this analogy. Anger or grudges or anything negative in that circle, is like fresh rubbish. Rubbish you have just collected. Now, imagine keeping that rubbish binned, in your kitchen for few days or even a week. I bet your kitchen would stink like a huge dumping site. Your dog wouldn't even dare to walk in the kitchen. Any bird flying across would fall dead. Shrek would slap himself for smelling nicer. Anger & negativity are like that. Let them go immediately. And, when you are angry, in this case that smelly rubbish bin; whatever you do, do not open your mouth or it shall smell! What I'm saying is, whatever that comes from your mouth will stink, hurt someone and you may regret doing so.
I guess it does take time to master this exercise. I have been doing this for a while so, it doesn't take me much effort. But having said that, I do get upset or anger but it normally last no longer than 30 mins. It takes more energy to be anger, holding a grudge. Not forgetting the headache that comes with it. Let it go. You will avoid having to spend loads of money in wrinkle creams or anti aging serums.
Tennis Quote From My Favourite Player
" I think about that sometimes - learning to play in a parking lot, stringing nets between cars. I learned to play by hitting against a brick wall, not a ball machine or other players. And my Father was my coach - teaching me from a twenty year-old book. When I hear people say that you can't make it in tennis if you don't have a lot of money, I know they're wrong. We didn't have much money. But I loved the sport and that was enough." - Monica Seles -
